2017 | A Year of Intention and Balance
by She Flies With Her Own Wings
It’s that time of year again. The time where people make resolutions to lose weight, save money, quit smoking, fall in love, get organized, etc. etc. Which most of these resolutions last a few weeks, maybe a few months. That’s not to bash resolutions. I think having a fresh, new start is great. I think setting goals is really important!
A few years ago I chose to move from resolutions to goals… and even then, I didn’t accomplish every goal. But it’s always nice to have something to work towards.
If you’re close with me, or you’ve been following my blog posts for awhile, you know that I’ve struggled a lot the last few years. One of my friends referred to it as “passing through an amazing struggle”. Which in a way made it sound beautiful. I didn’t think 2016 could be worse than 2015, but it sure proved me wrong. 2016 sucked. For many reasons. And it’s been apparent that many other people have felt the same way. I guess misery enjoys company. But I am very determined to use these setbacks and struggles to make me a better person, to learn and grow, to become the best version of myself.
When you start to feel like things should have been better last year, remember the mountains and valleys that got you here. They are not accidents and those moments weren’t in vain. You are not the same. You have grown and you are growing. You are breathing, you are living, you are wrapped in endless, boundless, grace. And things will get better. There’s more to you than yesterday. – Morgan Harper Nichols
I’m not going to dwell on the past. For this New Year I decided to pick a word (or two), that would be my mantra for 2017. Word(s) to guide my choices and decisions; words to live by. The two words I have chosen to live this next year by: intention and balance. This year isn’t about achieving small goals, it’s about allowing myself to be the person I am so that I can reach my fullest potential.
Set a goal so big that you can’t achieve it until you grow into the person who can.
This year I will be intentional about how I spend my time. From how much time I spend on social media, to the people I spend my time with, to the causes and events that I invest my time in, and where spend my money.
Guard your time fiercely. Be generous with it, but be intentional about it. – David Duchemin
I love the power of social media: keeping in touch with old friends, connecting with new people, using it as a platform to advocate for causes I’m passionate about. But it’s so easy to get consumed with it and before you know it hours can have passed by. I want to have a balance of the time I spend on social media, and the time I spend connecting and keeping in touch with people in real life.
The people you surround yourself with say a lot about you and have a large affect on your life . Everyone plays a role in your life, and some people just aren’t meant to be in your whole book. They play a part in a few chapters, and you each serve a purpose in each others lives. It’s important to be around the light bringers, the magic makers, the world shifters, the game shakers. They challenge you, break you open, uplift and expand you. They don’t let you play small with your life. These heartbeats are your people. These people are your tribe. I want to be surrounded by people who build each other up. People who create positivity. I want to be around people who can be on a completely different path, or even the same path in life, and still be rooting for each other 100%. People who cheer each other on in the pursuit of their dreams no matter how crazy they are. Relationships where you aggressively believe in each other, defend each other, and think the other deserves the world. You should be picky about vibes: be picky about the energy you surround yourself with. You owe yourself that much.
I want to have a better work-life balance so that I can spend more time with the people in my life who truly matter. So that I can strengthen those relationships, and be more open and available to new relationships. I want to be there for birthdays, bbq’s, accomplishments, and life-changing moments. It’s time to be intentional about my relationships and the people in my life.
Find balance in your life. Work hard, but don’t let work take over your life, you will lose yourself. Love, but love for the right reasons. Life is too short for anything mediocre. Know who you are and know that you are worthy of reaching your dreams and that it is never too late to start creating that life you have always dreamed of. Do not compare yourself to others, that’s just deadly. No two souls are the same. You are your own person, you are beautiful and you are unique. Put your trust in the universe. Let go of whatever is stealing your happiness; it’s hard but it’s worth it. Embrace change. Embrace life. Sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, and let go.
If you know me, then you know that I’m constantly giving my time to causes and supporting charities and non-profits. Which I absolutely love! But instead of giving little pieces of myself and spreading myself thin, I want to be intentional about who I give my time and energy to. I want to give more to areas where my passions really are. That means saying “no” more often, which is going to be difficult, but I need to remind myself that I need to make sure that when I say “yes”, I’m not actually saying “no” to myself or the things I’m most passionate about. Become more aware of what’s really worth your energy.
The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities. – Stephen Covey
This year I will be intentional about taking care of myself: physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. It’s not about dieting or working out just to lose weight to look thin. It’s about eating food that nourishes my body and sustains me. It’s about not only working out by lifting weights and running, but also by doing yoga and meditating; so that I’m not just strengthening myself physically, but also emotionally and mentally.
I want to have a balance with how I treat my body. I don’t want to diet and workout for half the year, I want to be healthy and strong the whole year. I want to take care of my whole self.
This year I will be intentional about how I spend my money. I want to think of purchases as investments; is it going to add value to my life. I have found that ‘stuff’ doesn’t make me happy. As much as I enjoy some ‘retail therapy’, it’s just a temporary fix. And then the pile of stuff causes me more stress. I need to go through and donate so many things; I also want to be intentionally about what I choose to keep. I think being more of a minimalist will bring more joy. I want to invest my money on experiences and adventures. Mini “Eat Pray Love” adventure, here I come!
Breaking off pieces of yourself to fit into places will not help you belong, it will only make you bleed. Tearing yourself into half to fit in will not help you belong, it will only take your soul. The only way you will ever belong is when you feel complete without anyone reassuring you that you are. You are valid. Alone, or with company. Do not let anything convince you otherwise. – Your Soul Is A River
This year is a year I’m going to be a bit more selfish. That doesn’t mean I’m not going to be there for others, serve, or continue to give, because that wouldn’t be me. But it is time that I start to take seriously the saying – “you can’t pour from an empty cup”. It’s not even about being selfish, it’s about developing a higher level of self-love. When you have self-love, you’re more open and capable of giving and receiving love.
It takes a level of self love, of dedication and determination to live your greatest life. So look within. Look at every area of your life and ask yourself these questions: Am I on course? Am I growing mentally, emotionally and spiritually? Anything that is blocking that, anything that is preventing you from living your greatest life, make the tough decision to let it go.
Love yourself… enough to take the actions required for your happiness… enough to cut yourself loose from the drama-filled past… enough to set a high standard for relationships… enough to feed your mind and body in a healthy manner… enough to forgive yourself… enough to move on. – Steve Maraboli
Bye, byeee 2016. I won’t miss ya. Stayed up until midnight just to see you die.
2017, you don’t even have to do much to beat the last two years, but regardless… I’m setting high expectations for you.
1 year = 365 opportunities // This is the beginning of anything you want.